Colombian Women – Divorce, Live Happy or Die

Originally published in the Fenton Patch newspaper May 2012

blue pen 120According to a 2006 research report Colombia has one of the lowest divorce rates in all of the Latin American countries. By contrast the USA has one of the highest in the world with 54% of all marriages ending in divorce. But my concern is obviously about an American man and a Colombian woman. An unofficial survey showed that such a marriage had a 90% chance for a lifetime of success, which makes it one of the best in the world.

Why Colombian women are such good marriage partners intrigued my mind. Some people said it is because they are Catholic. But that could not be the answer as almost all of Latin America is the same religion. My questioning of more Colombians revealed there are many factors at play in the answer. One comment emerged more often than others, Colombian women are beautiful both outside and inside.

Every American, Canadian, Englishman and German man I know living in Colombia has said the same thing; Colombian women always try to look feminine, even in business. Americans already know the outside beauty of two Colombians, the singer Shakira and the actress Sophia Vergara. Mattel released a line of Barbie dolls inspired by the look of the Colombian singer. Vergara, who is best known to Americans by her role on the TV show Modern Family, was recently voted the most desirable woman in the world by a survey of one million men. That feat is not bad for a woman with 39 years. Yes, Colombian women hold their age very well. But if you really want to see how well they do it just take a look at Telenovela (soap opera) star Amparo Grisales, who recently posed nude for SOHO magazine. With well over 50 years living on earth she has a look that can heat up the coldest room. And yes that view comes devoid of surgical enhancements.

Beauty outside can be subjective. It is beautiful inside that really makes it. One paper stated it is because that the world for Colombian women is centered around family. My personal belief, from not only my own marriage but from that of other gringos married to a Colombian, is that Colombian women are more willing to act as a partner in marriage rather than as two people married yet each one individual. They do not seem to be in competition with anyone. If a man is willing to work within the marriage as a partner as well, then it is long lasting relationship. And I have noticed that marriages in the USA that have that same synergy are also ones that have an excellent chance of life success.

There is another side to these marriages that can help keep the divorce statistics low. Many have heard the term of fiery Latina temper. Over the years two cases of an American/Colombian marriage living in the US have made the news. Basically the moral is never ever cheat on a Colombian woman. One wife ran over her husband with the new Cadillac he bought her (probably feeling guilty for straying in the marriage). Then she backed up and ran over him again, repeating the procedure three more times. In another instance of an American married to a Colombian, the husband ran into three bullets after being caught with another woman. And there is no doubt in my mind that my days on Earth will be severely limited should I stray. But hey, marriage is about fidelity anyway and having a beautiful sexy partner who works with you helps. Not to mention that it sure beats the alternative.

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  1. Well my friend! I too am married to a Colombian woman. I was told to be careful when hooking up with these women. YES! They are liars and gold diggers. I have been married for a little over 3 years! Paid for EVERYTHING! All the immigration process, plane tickets, green cards! you name it! First red flag popped up!
    She did not want to come to the USA unless her 18 1/2 year old daughter couldn’t come! There were living grandparents she could have stayed with but, the mother wasn’t coming without her.

    Once in the USA EVERYTHING CHANGED! She started complaining about everything! Now, mind you we live in the upper middle class neighborhood. Average family income is around $180,000 per year to well over $200,000. This woman wanted for nothing! and I mean NOTHING! Her now 19 1/2 daughter wanted for NOTHING! I have lamps in my home that run about $800.00 per lamp. One lamp got broken and NO one knows how! Hum??? Caught the daughter in a hefty lie! Colombian woman probably are great! I think I just got a hold of one of the bad ones! All I can see is FOLLOW your GUT feeling! If it sends a Run for your life signal! It would be in your best interest to SCRAM!!!

    1. Michael: Cultural differences may play a part in your experience. Some of these differences from South Americans are difficult for for North Americans to understand. That is one of the topics that will be tackled in a blog I am working on about insights into Colombian women.

      1. I’m sorry that happened to you, but please realized, that any woman of any ethnic background or age, living in the USA, more likely to become, $hungry, cheater, and all the other bad things. It’s the “American way “which is celebrated by everyone.

    2. I lived 4 years in Colombia. You didn’t get the exception but the rule. Your wife and daughter are more than common; it’s how they all are. Exceptions? Not worth looking for. Alas, too late for you

    3. Bpd is so common among women in Colombia. I would encourage you to look into “reignite the fire” by rick Reynolds and everything will start going in the direction you want. This will help in bpd and non bpd relationships. I am also in a relationship with someone from Colombia and believe me, “reignite the fire” will change your situation if you take it seriously.

  2. Great article M & G
    I am 56 divorced and single and lived in Great White North In Canada most of my life . I have a job in Colombia starting in December for a Canadian company that contracts it services . This job is a contract and set up for rotations of employees meaning 2 mo on 1 mo off and with the option of staying in Colombia for My time off .Well thats a no brainer work for 2 months and be a tourist for one

    There are a 100 articles on how to date Colombian women and I haven’t found one that relates to Middle Aged
    Colombian Women, lets say 40 to 55 . There are tons of dating websites where you pick and choose your age groups, but I don’t want to go there . All of the young beautiful women must have mothers that are single, married, divorced or widowed
    My Spanish is conversational and I am wondering is it better to find these women thru coworkers or social events to meet these wonderful women that are around my age.
    Hopefully Team Colombia will make my ambitions a little easier

    1. Michael: Roland, thanks for stopping by the blogsite and reading. Interesting job with the ability to discover Colombia for an entire month. As for meeting ladies, I was in my middle 50’s when I met my wife. It was quite by accident. I needed a translator and she came recommended. The truth is neither one of us was looking for a relationship at the time.

      You need to stand still for a butterfly to land on you. If you chase them, they never will. As North Americans we are impatient and tend to strive to make things happen. Sometimes that is like pounding a square peg into a round hole. Neither the peg nor the hole escape injury. My advise is to use your free time seeing Colombia and learning its various parts. Check out the coast like Cartagena, the Carribean islands like San Andres, coffee region, the Llanos, the capital of Bogotá, the eternal spring of Medellin and the salsa dancing world of Cali. Enjoy yourself discovering the beautiful country of Colombia, but do not chase love and there is a better chance that the correct love will find you.

      1. Dear Michael & Graciela
        thanks for the reply
        This will be my second time in Colombia first was in 1981 and it was difficult times.
        I never thought in a million years that I would ever come back or even think of working in Colombia
        But now I am excited and look forward to the problem they say with Colombia is, you may not want to leave.
        Patience will prevail, you have the best advice i have seen on the internet

    2. Dating older colombian women, is really uncomplicated, don’t be nervous just relax and enjoy your self.

    1. I am colombian .I was born in colombia and raised in america with qood old fashioned values . I am not a Golddigger I have morals integrity Im Loyal ,honest .and treat people with respect.Beautiful inside and out , classy and very independent .I appreciate smallest gestures .I am very catering Meticulous and keep a lovely home And yes I could be a little feisty brat 🙂 tru colombian o did i forget to mention im sarcastic …again very feisty ….yes thats a tru colombian but will love you forever ..If you dig deep enough she has her very submissive side.

      1. I love the culture, the beautiful women and the lush beauty of the country. Feisty huh? I like that. A ride or die woman for there man. I like a women who makes her home comfortable for her and her family. Maybe when I decide to visit you will keep my email and we can connect. If it’s in the stars, maybe it will happen. I love your intro, be well my friend!

  3. Hello all! I met a Colombian lady 43 years old working at a laundromat. After 6 months we got married. Then after 6 weeks married she decided she wanted to live alone and just be friends. Now she wants an annulment and live here illegally while working under the table. She has no children but wants her dog from Bogota to come here. I have met several of her family members who attended the wedding. We are living separately and she wants her phone changed to her name, live in the downtown portion of Dallas and ask I not worry. I bought her 2 rings, gone on 2 vacations and eat at some of best restaurants. What is is that i missed in this Colombian lady? I feel used and broken hearted. Any words of wisdom is accepted please.

    1. Roc55,

      Thanks for stopping by the blog site. I have heard similiar stories about women from all parts of the world in both developed and developing countries. It is not just Colombia.
      …. Michael

    2. Ron, men who know better know that the overwhelming majority of Colombianas are good only for flings and short-term “relationships”. Wise men use the “relationship “ word loosely with these types of women. By short I mean really short and without no emotion or else silly men like you will get taken for a ride of BS called the Colombiana.

      Tourism obviously is live and well so long as pathetic tricks like you keep on attempting to buy “love” instead of being real men with a backbone who can say NO and mean it the first time. Stop trading your masculine logic for a woman’s vanity (her short-lived beauty).

      Good luck to you

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